How To Be Disappointed

1) Be disappointed. 2) Let go of the story of how understanding and generous and forgiving you are, because the only thing worse than being disappointed in someone else is simultaneously discovering you are not the person you thought you were and not being able to reconcile yourself. Cognitive dissonance and unnamed, unnameable feelings only amplify the disappointment. 3) If you were my kid and you were disappointed, I’d totally tell you to feel what you’re feeling, but I might put boundaries on the behavior. It’s fine to be sad, but not so fine to throw yourself on the ground in the middle of the coffee shop and kick and scream because they are out of your favorite kind of scone. The floor is dirty and people give me funny looks. 4) Notice the...

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